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Understanding Your Family Tree: Guest blogger Bibiana Rueda

The family tree is a tool I employ as a psychologist when working with many clients. Why? Exploring the family tree is a conscious decision to be aware of one’s heritage. Understanding that helps clients see the roots of their belief system and various issues. With a willingness to change, clients can overcome limiting patterns in order to better fulfill their life’s purpose.

The process reveals ideas and baggage from the family. Since we all want to belong, we tend to repeat these beliefs and patterns. This happens through various processes, such as simple repetition (what I see, I repeat), interpretation (regardless of what I saw during my childhood, my unconscious made an interpretation and created something similar in my current life), opposition (I felt guilty or neglected, so decided to become the opposite of what my family represented) or compensation (I must achieve all that they cannot/did not).

The family tree begins by looking back at the grandparents as the emotional context of childhood for a client’s parents. The couple that brings a child into the world clearly has a major role in emotional development. Parental influence sets the stage for creativity and sexuality. Siblings are the first people with whom a client shares things (space, food, toys, attention), which inform a lot of potentially life long beliefs and behaviors.

I serve as an“awareness consultant”, working with clients as a team through the process of:

1. Being aware
The study of the family tree uncovers all the unconscious dynamics that drive one's life, creating distance from living authentically. I help clients gain daily awareness of these dynamics and notice how ingrained patterns direct their perceptions and behaviors. Common behaviors a client might become aware of include frequent complaining, being unnecessarily pessimistic or negative or trying to control situations that can’t really be controlled. They likely never realized before how repeating these behaviors was affecting their life.

2. Getting rid of limiting patterns/beliefs
Through conscious change, clients work on their inner dialogue and the realization that reality depends on perception. This can help clients not to take things so personally and to adapt to change and face conflicts that are limiting them. We can also use symbolic acts in our sessions to break patterns. The symbolic act goes directly to the unconscious (where the pattern resides) and is an important way to connect with the process of healing.

3.  Building tools to be an emotional adult
Typically, I work with clients for a limited time period. The work we do in those sessions helps clients to be responsible for their own emotions, manage the need to control and find daily peace within. Clients then have all the tools they need within, to live a purposeful life.

 

During the session you will get familiar with the concept of the family tree,  you will understand and will identify the repetitive behavior patterns of your own family tree. You will receive valuable and unique tools to begin the journey of understanding and being aware of the limiting beliefs and the repetitive behaviors you carry out,  and generally your whole belief system.

 

Bibiana Rueda is a clinical psychologist with more than 8 years of experience leading couples and individuals to a complete existential transformative experience where they can find inner tools to be fully happy in the present moment. She studied psychogenealogy (family tree, belief system) holistic sexuality, reiki, energy healing and is finishing her certification programme to be a Bioneuroemotion® practitioner. She’s a regular writer for blogs and magazines in Shanghai and also does corporate trainings and workshops.

When: Tuesday 2nd May, 7-9pm

Investment: 150 RMB

Food and drink are available for purchase at Happy Buddha and Better Bentos. It's all delicious and healthy, and vegetarian / vegan options are available.

Method of payment: Advance payment via Yoopay

Please note that spaces are limited, and tickets may not be available on the door.

Location (地點): Sprout Lifestyle, 388 Shaanxi South Lu, near Fuxing Lu.

Nearest Metro: South Shaanxi Rd, exit 8.

Over 2 weekends in May (13-14th in Shanghai & 20-21st in Beijing) Adrian Cahill, founder of MOTIVATE Shanghai, will be delivering a MASSIVE event. Day 1 covers Fundamental Coaching Skills (NLP, Accreditations, Methods, Practice). Day 2 is business focused. This includes first clients, automation, money beliefs/blocks, implementing powerful technology, CMV (Creating Massive Value).

Adrian Cahill spoke for audiences in Europe and Asia as early as 2008 on the topics of living passionate lives and how to achieve financial freedom. In 2013 he founded MOTIVATE Shanghai as a community focused, social enterprise for personal and professional development. Adrian Cahill has been on the TEDx stage 3 times now as well as being trained in Coaching, NLP, PSYCH-K & HeartMaths. He is a leader with the International Coaching Federation and mentor for a leading business mastermind in Australia.

In and out of his leadership positions, Adrian Cahill is focused on helping people throughout Australasia with coaching and training solutions. Adrian Cahill helps people gain clarity and direction. He helps people identify if coaching or training are suitable pathways for achieving happy and fulfilling lives.

Anyone interested in developing Coaching or Trainer skills, or those interested in deepening their personal or professional development are encouraged to reach out for a chat.

Payment: Based off number of attendees completing survey through the link below.

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We are looking forward to meeting you, welcome to our friendly group!

Feedback from attendees of previous MOTIVATE Shanghai workshops:

"Such a great event!"

"Great people, great minds alike, positive vibe all along, lots of nice energy exchanges, hands-on experience, learned and enhanced previous knowledge".

"Amazing experience for me as well. So glad to have you all. Love the group energy, very receptive and open minded."

"A wonderful, inspiring experience... Totally worth the trip from Suzhou!"

"Awesome!!!"

"Love tonight's workshop soooo much! Nothing to say but THANK YOU!"

"Thanks girls for spreading positivity and self-love!"

"The energy was so special. We enjoyed the evening so much!"

"Wonderful, powerful and highly emotional workshop"

"I just cannot stop smiling. You are an amazing group of people that is ful of love, passion and joy. You went up and beyond my of all we could have dreamed of"

"Beautiful!"

"It was nice sharing with like minded people and learn about tips and tricks to improve our lives"

"I love meeting new, growth-oriented folks"

"Thanks Adrian, Henar and Katy for putting this together. Lots of great stories and practical tips shared".

"I love being surrounded by wonderful people like you"

"It was a pleasure to be in the presence of you all.

"Thank you for sharing your experience and knowledge"

"I gained a lot tonight!"

"It was an unique, interesting experience tonight. Thanks again"

"Thanks for your insights and shining postive energy"

"Many thanks to all of you! Leant a lot"

"Loved how many other interesting people attended and the friendly and open atmosphere".

"There was a cozy and warm feeling of the venue and the participants"

"Thanks a lot for a really nice event yesterday night! Loved having the opportunity to meet other people who are interested in personal development. What a treat"!

Feedback from attendees of previous MOTIVATE Shanghai workshops:

"Such a great event!"

"Great people, great minds alike, positive vibe all along, lots of nice energy exchanges, hands-on experience, learned and enhanced previous knowledge".

"Amazing experience for me as well. So glad to have you all. Love the group energy, very receptive and open minded."

"A wonderful, inspiring experience... Totally worth the trip from Suzhou!"

"Awesome!!!"

"Love tonight's workshop soooo much! Nothing to say but THANK YOU!"

"Thanks girls for spreading positivity and self-love!"

"The energy was so special. We enjoyed the evening so much!"

"Wonderful, powerful and highly emotional workshop"

"I just cannot stop smiling. You are an amazing group of people that is ful of love, passion and joy. You went up and beyond my of all we could have dreamed of"

"Beautiful!"

"It was nice sharing with like minded people and learn about tips and tricks to improve our lives"

"I love meeting new, growth-oriented folks"

"Thanks Adrian, Henar and Katy for putting this together. Lots of great stories and practical tips shared".

"I love being surrounded by wonderful people like you"

"It was a pleasure to be in the presence of you all.

"Thank you for sharing your experience and knowledge"

"I gained a lot tonight!"

"It was an unique, interesting experience tonight. Thanks again"

"Thanks for your insights and shining postive energy"

"Many thanks to all of you! Leant a lot"

"Loved how many other interesting people attended and the friendly and open atmosphere".

"There was a cozy and warm feeling of the venue and the participants"

"Thanks a lot for a really nice event yesterday night! Loved having the opportunity to meet other people who are interested in personal development. What a treat"!