Index > Authors> Awakening> 5 Tips for Embracing Now and Letting Go of Expectations

5 Tips for Embracing Now and Letting Go of Expectations

Right Things turn out the best for people who make the best of the way things turn out. ~John Wooden

Here are five tips for embracing What Is and releasing your own expectations,

wherever they tend to congregate.

Tip #1 – Practice Gratitude

Gratitude has a way of awakening us to the present moment in the most positive way possible and, chances are, if you’re thinking about what is, you have less

room to think about what isn’t.

If you find yourself reflecting on unmet expectations, turn your energy to recognizing all the things — no matter the size — that are positive about the situation or the circumstances.

Tip #2 – Be Open to the Possibilities

In all reality, if things always happened the way we hoped or expected, life would be utterly predictable and completely unexciting. The possibilities are endless,

but if we are resistant to letting life unfold as it is meant to, we tend to paint unexpected occurrences in a negative light.

Let it go. Holding on to expectations goes against life’s flow and can make your reality unbearable when it doesn’t need to be.

Tip #3 – Laugh It Off

When I was younger, a day trip I took with my family when we were vacationing in Italy turned disastrous when my parents decided we should park our rental car and take the subway in order to “really experience the culture.”

What should have taken an hour ended up taking nearly five after our train was delayed then cancelled and we were shuttled to another station only to find out we would have to take a bus to our final destination.

We were expecting a magical day strolling the streets of Florence, but instead

we ended up creating a hilarious memory we still share at family gatherings.

Our expectations were pummeled, but laughter made it an oddly enjoyable experience.

Tip #4 – Communicate Expectations

I believe that one of the biggest culprits of unmet expectations is putting pressure on others to do certain things or act in a certain way without their knowledge.

We place meaning on things that other people may not know we find meaningful and we test them based on what they do or don’t do. Basically we set them up for failure and allow ourselves to base our satisfaction on whether or not they have

met our expectations.

So if you need or want something, let others know. This will do wonders in preventing the pain of unmet expectations.

Tip #5 – Daily Celebrations

Often times we place a great deal of importance on holidays and birthdays because we see them as one of the few days out of the year that we can really enjoy ourselves. Then, when they don’t go as planned, we feel as if we have to wait for another special occasion to roll around before we can have fun again.

In truth, if we turned more events into celebrations and gave ourselves permission on a regular basis to have fun, there wouldn’t be so much pressure to have our expectations met on these specific days.

Let loose and celebrate the simple fact that you’re alive. Spontaneity makes it virtually impossible for expectations to form.